In the book of James, the tongue is said to need tamed because it can do all manner of evil. From the tongue comes blessing and curses. Paul in Ephesians told us to speak the truth in love. Jesus asked us to love our neighbor as our self. Who is our neighbor? Everyone is our neighbor so that means one must show compassion and love through words to everyone.
The old adage, ‘sticks and stone may break my bones, but words can never harm me’ is not true. Words can harm. Once something has been said, it cannot be put back in the mouth, nor can it be easily forgotten. Saying, “I didn’t mean it” won’t take the sting away. You still said it, and the words found their mark.
Though it is easier said than done, it always good to think before you speak, especially when you are in a high emotional state. Training yourself NOT to speak when in an emotional state and walking away until you are calm and more rational is best. When you are upset, it is nearly impossible to show love and compassion.
Another area the tongue needs tamed is in the area of speaking negatively. If one is in a depressing environment, has bad things happen, or it is one’s emotional bent, it is hard to be positive. Being positive builds people up and helps make the living environment pleasant. Being positive shows one cares for people.
Also, finding the positive in a bad situation is always uplifting for all involved and can offer hope. Even if bad news or information has to be given, one can always deliver it in love, and in some cases, put a more positive spin on it.
It’s important that we learn to control our tongue and speak to others showing love, respect and compassion. Regardless of the situation, we can always use our words to make our environment more positive. Our words have the power to build up or tear down. How will your use your words today?
All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by men, but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil full of deadly poison. James 3:7-8