In the late 1970s and early 1980s, disco was a big thing. Everyone went out on Friday and Saturday night and danced their heart out. I absolutely loved to dance and went with my sister or friends. The only drawback was unwanted male attention.
It was fun to flirt and get to know various types of guys. The drawback was getting paid too much attention by the wrong guy. It was not that I was a great beauty or anything, but men were on the make, and I was not that type of woman. I used an alter ego during that time and told men my name was Niki Smith. I would also give them a bogus phone number if they asked for mine.
Enter my husband. I met him at a disco and told him I was Niki Smith. I admit I was not nice to him and thought he was just another man on the prowl. All night he called me Niki and kept coming to my table to talk or ask me to dance. Then at the end of the evening, a friend came up to me and called me by my real name, and my husband was standing beside me. It made for an uncomfortable few moments on my part.
I used deception to protect myself, which I thought was a good thing. However, deceiving can get us into a heap of trouble or have consequences that we do not want. After all, deception is a form of lying and breaks the 9th commandment. I was lucky that my husband still wanted to date me. I certainly am not proud that our almost 40-year marriage started with a lie.
One of the most famous deceptions in the Old Testament is Jacob pretending to be Esau at his mother’s urging and with her help to get his father’s blessing. A father’s blessing was important back then. It basically gave the firstborn son the biggest share of the inheritance and made him the head or ruler of the family including siblings. It was like a reading of the will before the father died.
Jacob’s deception cost everyone involved. The deception had devastated Isaac, had made Esau hate and plot to kill his brother, and Rebekah had lost her favorite son because he had to run for his life. While Rebekah and Jacob may have gotten what they wanted, it came at a price.
The sad part of the story is that God had already said Jacob would be made the destined heir. But as we humans often do, we think the Lord needs our help, and we help. Our help often fouls up things. Rebekah knew God was going to make Jacob the heir as did Isaac. Isaac went against God’s plan by wanting to bless Esau, and Rebekah helped God by replacing Esau with Jacob. Neither showed faith or trust in God’s plan or the Lord God Almighty to do as He had said He would.
Deception feeds our need for drama in our lives. It requires scheming to trick or make someone believe something to be true and valid when it is not. When the truth comes out, it is a bomb that goes off and blows up relationships and creates debris of high emotions and pain for everyone involved in the attempt to deceive including the one(s) being deceived. It is never harmless or helpful to anyone.
The Lord hates sin, and deception is spoken against over and over in His Word. It is associated with the devil – who from the beginning of creation was a deceiver and tricked Eve into eating the forbidden fruit. One thing we can count on is that if we truly seek His forgiveness, He loves us so much that He will forgive us. Deception in no way will help or advance God’s plan for us. God’s plan will happen despite us. Deception only puts us in Satan’s trap.
You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44