In the days before motorized vehicles, farmers (if they could afford it) used a team of horses, mules or oxen to plow fields or pull their carriages and wagons. When picking out these animals, they had to make sure when they were paired up that they were equal in strength, size and ability. For to have a mismatch in a team would make things harder on the team. One animal would bear the brunt of all the work. This would cause a loss of time, quality of work and possibly injure or wear out the stronger team member after a while. Let’s face it, if one member of a two-member team does not pull its weight, then it is no longer a team.
Abraham understood that concept. He made a pact with his most trusted servant to find a wife for his son, Isaac, from the tribe of people he had left all those years ago and to not let Isaac marry any local woman. Why? Because he wanted a wife for his son who was like-minded and had faith in the One True God.
It may sound prejudicial and harsh, but Abraham had the benefit of a wife who was like himself and took a foreigner to bear his child and understood how important it was to partner with someone who had the same beliefs. God’s promise of many descendants weighed on Abraham. He wanted those descendants to know and honor God because God had blessed him beyond his wildest dreams.
The servant went on his way and ended up among Abraham’s people. He was at a well where all the women in town came to draw water. He knew that God was looking out for Abraham and wanted to make sure he picked the right woman for Isaac. He prayed for God’s choice to be revealed to him by the woman he approached not only giving him water, but offering to water his camels, too.
The young girl that came to the well was Rebekah. She was also related to Abraham. It was difficult for her parents to let her go, but they agreed to do so if Rebekah really wanted to go. She agreed to go with the servant, and he brought her back for Isaac. They had a long and happy marriage.
Marriage is one of the most important teams a person will ever be on. It is so easy to get carried away by looks, romance and all the other things that society tells us we need in a mate. But for a marriage to run smoothly, you must be yoked to someone who has the same value system as you do and thinks like you about money, sex, children and God. A disconnect in any one of those can make for a rough ride further down the road. Each person will want to go in a different direction. If the direction cannot be agreed on or a compromise made, it can destroy or eat away at the marriage.
Even if you find someone who believes as you do about everything, it doesn’t guarantee a smooth marriage. Humans are flawed and imperfect, and marriage will always have its ups and downs. They key is to love each other and work together for the greater good – the family/marriage. If both parties agree about most things, it makes it easier to work solutions out that both people can live with. Also allowing the Lord to be part of the marriage will insure its strength. If both parties seek the Lord and His will, it will grow and prosper.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14